Tips on Getting Over a Break Up

It's funny how someone who was just a stranger at one point, can mean so much to you now. What's sad is that someone who meant so much to you, is now nothing but a stranger. For better or for worse, it's amazing how much can change in certain amount of time for anyone. For me...  I think it's for the better. Break ups suck. People change their minds. We all hit bumps in the road. Most people go through it on some point, so i thought I'd share some tips on what has been helpful for me.

You're allowed to be sad or angry or any other emotion in between
Someone who was once a part of your life, isn't anymore. Go ahead, have a pity party. Cry for a week. Eat chocolate and watch sappy movies. Vent your feelings and frustrations with those close to you. Heck, go have a bon fire and burn all their things. Do whatever you have to do. Its best to get emotions out in some way, and i guarantee that just by doing that, you'll start feeling better.

Give it time
Change doesn't come easy for all of us, but life does go on.You've probably heard it a million times before, but time does heal wounds. Really. It may take a great deal of time, and some days may seem better than others, but it gets better.  Don't get down on yourself if you randomly start thinking about past memories or good times, that's a normal part of getting over someone and it's going to happen. As time goes on though, it'll happen less.

Give yourself distance
How does anyone expect to truly get over someone if you don't spend some distance away from each other? Okay,  I know there are people who claim to be friends with their exes and that's all hunky dory for them, but for most people that's something that's not possible. Well, at least not anytime soon. Trust me when I say it's for the best to avoid all social media. Delete them as a friend, block them. Block their number if they don't leave you alone. At first, I did not do this, and I think it made things worse. There would be times we would not talk and I'd start feeling better, then he would text me and I'd be down again. Let me say it's been over a week since I've blocked him, and I feel so much more at peace. It's better to not be tempted to look at their page and see what they're doing. Or drunk text them one night when you're not yourself. You're moving on. You. Do. Not. Need. To. Know. What. They. Are. Doing.  At some point in the distant future when you're finally over it, I mean really over it, you can decide to unblock them or whatever. When it's fresh, you're doing yourself a favor.

Focus on yourself  
Now is a good time to start focusing on what you love or maybe starting a new hobby or project. If you like exercising, start taking walks more. Focus on being with friends. Focus on new projects. Remember how you said you were going to clean out that closet? Well do it! Remember you said you wanted to take that painting class? Well take it! Distractions can be wonderful things, especially when we are enjoying them. Focus on whatever is going to make you happy. Try out different thing until you find the right thing.

Remember that you deserve better
Whether it's you breaking up with someone or someone breaking up with you, just remember you deserve better. You deserve someone who loves you just as much as you love them. That doesn't always happen the first time around, or maybe even the second or third. I believe things happen for a reason. Somethings fall apart so better things came come together. You'll figure out that reason sooner or later.