Tips on Getting Over a Break Up

It's funny how someone who was just a stranger at one point, can mean so much to you now. What's sad is that someone who meant so much to you, is now nothing but a stranger. For better or for worse, it's amazing how much can change in certain amount of time for anyone. For me...  I think it's for the better. Break ups suck. People change their minds. We all hit bumps in the road. Most people go through it on some point, so i thought I'd share some tips on what has been helpful for me.

You're allowed to be sad or angry or any other emotion in between
Someone who was once a part of your life, isn't anymore. Go ahead, have a pity party. Cry for a week. Eat chocolate and watch sappy movies. Vent your feelings and frustrations with those close to you. Heck, go have a bon fire and burn all their things. Do whatever you have to do. Its best to get emotions out in some way, and i guarantee that just by doing that, you'll start feeling better.

Give it time
Change doesn't come easy for all of us, but life does go on.You've probably heard it a million times before, but time does heal wounds. Really. It may take a great deal of time, and some days may seem better than others, but it gets better.  Don't get down on yourself if you randomly start thinking about past memories or good times, that's a normal part of getting over someone and it's going to happen. As time goes on though, it'll happen less.

Give yourself distance
How does anyone expect to truly get over someone if you don't spend some distance away from each other? Okay,  I know there are people who claim to be friends with their exes and that's all hunky dory for them, but for most people that's something that's not possible. Well, at least not anytime soon. Trust me when I say it's for the best to avoid all social media. Delete them as a friend, block them. Block their number if they don't leave you alone. At first, I did not do this, and I think it made things worse. There would be times we would not talk and I'd start feeling better, then he would text me and I'd be down again. Let me say it's been over a week since I've blocked him, and I feel so much more at peace. It's better to not be tempted to look at their page and see what they're doing. Or drunk text them one night when you're not yourself. You're moving on. You. Do. Not. Need. To. Know. What. They. Are. Doing.  At some point in the distant future when you're finally over it, I mean really over it, you can decide to unblock them or whatever. When it's fresh, you're doing yourself a favor.

Focus on yourself  
Now is a good time to start focusing on what you love or maybe starting a new hobby or project. If you like exercising, start taking walks more. Focus on being with friends. Focus on new projects. Remember how you said you were going to clean out that closet? Well do it! Remember you said you wanted to take that painting class? Well take it! Distractions can be wonderful things, especially when we are enjoying them. Focus on whatever is going to make you happy. Try out different thing until you find the right thing.

Remember that you deserve better
Whether it's you breaking up with someone or someone breaking up with you, just remember you deserve better. You deserve someone who loves you just as much as you love them. That doesn't always happen the first time around, or maybe even the second or third. I believe things happen for a reason. Somethings fall apart so better things came come together. You'll figure out that reason sooner or later.
 

6 Ways to Handle Stress

Being a college student, I know the amount of stress I feel can sometimes be overwhelming. Trying to find a balance between going to school, working, and personal life isn't always easy. Then if you're like me, you're so busy that you sometimes feel like you don't even have the time of day to eat and sleep! I'm not super woman, I can't do it all! Believe me, there are times I just want to forget all the things I have to do and just be like, "I'm just going to take a nap."

So I decided to share some thoughts on how to relieve some stress that I have found really helpful for myself. I thought that they might be beneficial for some people as well.

1. DO. NOT. PROCRASTINATE.
I repeat, do not. This is number one for me, and probably a lot of others as well. We all put off things we don't want to do, and this is something I still kick myself for often since I apparently can't learn my lesson. Whatever you have to do, whether it's homework, studying, cleaning your bedroom, do not put it off. It may not seem like a big deal that you're putting it off until later on when you really need to get it done, but this is only going to lead you to feel completely stressed out of your tree. I don't want you banging your head against the wall wishing you got it done earlier, just do it now. Think of it this way, the quicker you get monkey off your back, the more time you have to put fourth to other things! It's a win-win. I know some people feel like they work better under pressure, but you're still stressing yourself out waiting until the very last second. If you have a lot of time until the dead line, maybe just do tiny bits a day, and soon you'll reach your goal. Probably with some time to spare I might add.

2. Stay Organized
This has been such a huge help for me, especially if you're in school. If you have a ton of quiz dates, homework assignments, etc. It's a good idea to invest in a notebook of some sort or a planner. This will help you tremendously to stay organized. Even if you're not in school, having a planner for birthdays, work meetings, doctors appts. can be a savior. This will help you to manage your time better, and you'll be able to figure out free days to take time for yourself. We all know we need some of that.

3. Keep the Positive Vibes Up
I have struggled with negative thinking throughout the years. It's so easy to get caught up in it. I tell myself I'm going to think positively, but then it somehow turns into my over thinking things, which leads to negative thoughts. Stop. Let me tell you this kind of thinking is literally going to get you no where, and will only make things worse for yourself. Some ways that i have found to deal with this is counting my blessings every morning. Being thankful i have another day to live, i have a wonderful family, my health is good. Simple things like that can really put your life in perspective and make you realize the petty things are not worth losing sleep over. Use positive self talk. If you have something big coming up, repeat one positive thing to yourself. "You're going to nail this interview!" "I've reviewed for this test, i know i can handle it." "My outfit is on point today.".

4. Learn to Relax
Nothing is more important than your own health. You need to find time to relax and de-stress. Listen to some soothing music, pick up a good book, taking a nice bubble bath, or even writing down in a journal. Whatever it is that helps you escape for a little. You deserve to take some down time for yourself.

5. Get Enough Sleep!
There is nothing worse than trying to get up after 5, 4 or even 3  hours of sleep. It just throws your whole day off and you cant focus on anything except your bed. Been there...still there. When you have to be up early, figure out how much sleep your body needs to get and make sure you stick to this bed time! I know this can be easier said than done when you have a lot going on, but trust me when i say it's important. I recently started back at school from break, and let me tell you my whole entire sleep schedule was thrown off. I couldn't fall asleep, was getting up groggy. Not a good feelings. Getting your body into a routine is really helpful and beneficial for your body. You'll start to notice a difference in how you feel!

6. Eat Properly! 
Being properly fueled to handle your everyday activities is something your body needs to get. Make sure you're staying properly hydrated. Water has been shown to eliminate stress, so make sure your body is getting enough of it everyday. Another thing is to start your day off with breakfast. This is a big issue with me since I'm so bad at time management. I'm flying out the door before i even have time to put something in my stomach. Breakfast really is the most important meal of the day because it starts your day off after a long night of sleep. Make time for it, your tummy will thank you later. One last tip is to take breaks in between things you need to do to eat a healthy snack for a pick-me-up. I found for me its better to consume several smaller meals than 3 large ones. Find what works better for you!

That's all for today. Maybe these are things you haven't thought of, or maybe they are something you needed to be reminded off. Hopefully there is something you can take away from this.